My first online stalker

This all started when I first signed up. I got a message from a guy who lived about two hours away from me, and we talked a bit, but obviously the distance was an issue. But, he seemed nice, so we were friends on MySpace and chatted on AIM occasionally.

Then I started dating someone exclusively, and sort of forgot about this guy (we'll call him David). But, when that relationship didn't work out we started talking again. I thought to myself, why not push yourself a little? I had a friend who was dating someone in this distant city also, so I figured I'd hitch a ride with her when she went to visit her boyfriend and actually meet this David character I'd been casually chatting with for the better part of 6 months.

We exchanged phone numbers, and that's when the problems started. I'm not a big phone fan, so most of my calls are under 5-10 minutes and usually involve no more discussion than what's the plan for tonight/where should we meet/can you return that book I lent you.

David, however, wanted to talk for hours. Literally. He'd call, and we'd start talking, and despite my having plans, he'd suck me into to these long and, eventually, boring conversations. I'd try to gently let him go, and he'd get disappointed that I couldn't spend the entire afternoon on the phone. And then he'd call back, 3 hours later, after spending an hour talking to me already.

I started selectively answering my phone, and he got crazier. He'd call 4, 5, 6 times a day.

That freaked me right out. We'd tentatively made plans for the upcoming weekend, and he started talking like we were already dating. He wanted me to spend the night, and he talked about future cuddling and sex like it was going to happen. I don't know, until I actually meet and interact with a person, if I'm going to want to do it to them, so I certainly don't make those sorts of assumptions.

So I decided I wasn't going to meet him, since he seemed like a freaky-deaky-crazy-pants. And he continued to call, 8 times a day, and I avoided him, hoping he'd get the hint. I didn't really want to talk to him, and since we hadn't even met yet I figured the old avoidance tactic would do it.

It didn't. I had to send him a message so he'd get it. I told him he was freaking me and out seemed clingy and weird.

And the kicker- he still wanted to be "friends." Like we had any sort of history that would make that normal! No, dude, you're just a weird guy that I talked to online, thinking you were normal. Once you revealed your crazy, you forfeited all rights to talk to me.

I should have told him that, but I just told him it would make me uncomfortable. Then I blocked him on AIM and the dating website. Thank goodness he doesn't know where I live.